I agree with all of the contributers but Jennifer. Without knowing all of the facts, I would have to guess that she is consuming too many calories. You can eat only healthy foods, but you still have to be within your BMR (Basic Metabolic Rate) for weight loss or maintenance. She is obviously doing enough activity to not gain, but needs to reduce calories to lose. Period.
I did it. My couch to 5k app, week 6, day 2 asked me to run for 20 minutes straight, and I did it. Somewhere in the middle of it the song “Turn the World Around” by Harry Belafonte came on my iPod. Harry Belafonte always reminds me of my family. During WWII my grandfather Klitzke was stationed in the Caribbean, where he learned to love calypso music….and brought this love back to the rest of the family. So I grew up listening to, and loving, Harry.
Harry was the first concert I ever saw as a wee child. My dad ran the spotlight at the Holiday Star in Merrillville, IN, back before it became non-union. He got one of my mom’s albums of Harry autographed for me and my mom and I saw the concert there. Years later my mom, grandma, and I saw Harry at Ravinia.
Turn the World Around was a song I could never find on a recording until a fairly recent (like in the last 15 years) album came out…but the first time I heard the song I was a child, and he was on The Muppet Show.
I was in love with this song.
So here it is, 30-some years later, and I’m 112 pounds less than I was a year ago, and I’m running for 20 minutes. And when “Turn the World Around” came on my playlist, I felt the spirit of my grandpa Klitzke, and my gramma Klitzke, so happy for me. And I thought about that little blonde girl in the late 70’s watching The Muppet Show, and I wondered why she ever thought for a moment that she couldn’t do anything she wanted? Because it’s so obvious that she can, and has, and will continue.
Life is simply wonderful.
Former Fat Person
OK, I hate the word fat, but you know what I mean. I’ve been divorced since 2007, and I’ve dabbled here and there with online dating since then….taking many many many breaks in-between to get away from all of the liars, etc….I’ve run into a lot over the years. Some adventures include:
- Really married, but says he’s not (very common, almost not worth putting on the list)
- Say he wants a relationship, but only want a FWB (friend with benefits)
- Older than he said
- Shorter than he said
- Still married (but getting a divorce….I promise)
- Bad teeth or not enough teeth (missing teeth he ought to have)
- Doesn’t look like the picture(s)
- Bad table manners
- Ends date by very specifically saying “are you free on Wednesday around 6pm?” only never to hear from him again
- Back before I would send a full-body picture of me standing, I would send a face pic thinking “well, I’m a large woman, and I carry weight in my face, so no need for a full-body pic” only for the guy to be an idiot and think I had a size 26-28 face on top of a size 8 body. I started sending a full-body pic after I realized that happened more than once. I thought I was ok because I always had a round, fat face. Some obese woman do not carry their weight in their face, and that is dubious to “trick” a man into meeting you when you send the glamour face shot and you look like you have a size 10-12 face, but a jabba-the-hut body. I was not that woman.
Just recently I had a phone call with a gentleman (ahem) that I thought I had some decent chemistry with, and had an outstanding first phone call with, only for him to blow me off. Not before I sent him the link to my blog…so maybe he’ll read this. LOL. He very specifically wanted to meet for coffee on a Sunday “around 4pm” as he would be up my way visiting his son (yes, Mitch, I’m talking about you). He said he would call and we would firm it up. We spoke on the phone Friday night (he called me). We texted on Saturday. Then nothing. Nothing ever. I’ve never heard from him again. That’s just one of many examples of flakes and asshats I’ve run into over the years.
However, just last night I ran into a “new for me” issue. I’ve been emailing a gentleman (ahem) for about a week, and we’ve texted a little and tried to call each other but never were able to connect. Last night I was at the gym, and he texted me while I was there, so I told him I was at the gym. Well, the text conversation was a great opening for me to inform him that I’ve lost 111 pounds since May 2012. He did the obligatory “wow, that’s great”….but then he wanted to reconfirm my height. And then he wanted to know my goal weight. And then…………
He had the audacity and balls to ask if I had “any leftover remnants of [my] weight loss”? Only he spelled it remenents because he’s a dumbass. I played dumb and asked “what do you mean?” knowing full well he meant loose skin. He replied with “I dunno….like loose skin”. Yes, he wrote “dunno”. So actually, the asshat disqualified himself by having such a low IQ, but then he REALLY disqualified himself asking such a RUDE and INAPPROPRIATE personal question. So I told him he was rude. I also told him that in looking again at the pictures he sent me I could see why he was looking for absolute perfection (ahem). Note: He would be considered “overweight” if not “obese” by a BMI chart….and didn’t have that cute of a face. He texted me that after one simple question I became unglued and never to text him again. Fine by me.
So, stalkers, I’m wondering if there is not only dating discrimination against fat people, but also “former fat people”? From what I’ve always heard, women who give birth go through many physical changes, and most of them not positive….so I wouldn’t consider what I’m dealing with to be much worse than that.
I’ve not talked much about my loose skin on here, but that’s because I’m one of the luckier ones and my body has bounced back pretty well, considering I was obese for 20 some-odd years. I have some loose skin in my upper arms and thighs, and yes, my abdomen. But I don’t look like a trainwreck. And, the body takes up to 2 years after a weight loss to actually bounce back all the way it’s going to. Actually, it is recommended that if you think you may need some plastic surgery after weight loss that you don’t do it until AT LEAST ONE YEAR after you hit goal and have maintained.
I’m curious as to what anyone thinks about this new discrimination I’m about to face……please chime in!
OK, I was barely out of the saddle….it’s not like I grazed my way through the holidays. Hardly. I ate too much gum for 15 days and then ate some off protocol items on Christmas Day. I was back at it on the 26th, and today is Day #2 of pure phase 1.
Weighed in at 205.8 this morning….2 pounds lighter than yesterday morning. Heading in the right direction again, and feeling better as well. Saw my coach today and she told me about the “sugar hangover” that I experienced yesterday. Was really strange. Really felt like a hangover.
45 pounds just seems like a drop in the bucket. I can’t wait to get there! For Christmas I bought my mom a little picture scanner that is much quicker than traditional scanners, so I’ve scanned about 1500 pictures since Christmas Day. I’ve seen pictures that show me as being at least 250 pounds since the late 1990’s. All of the pics reaffirm why I am on this journey, and why I will see it through to the end and beyond.
I’m just so grateful I finally figured it out.
Hope everyone who celebrates it had a great Christmas!
In December I started the month on a roll of weight loss. Then it got really challenging, and I compensated by eating on protocol, but supplementing with too much artificial sweetener (like a whole pack of Trident gum in a day for several days in a row, as well as several pumps of sugar-free Davinci syrup in my coffee), and I stalled between 12/10 and 12/25.
Yesterday, Christmas Day, I went ahead and ate off-protocol, even though my family was supportive and I didn’t have to. I went into that bit of addictive thinking of “whatever, I haven’t lost weight for a while anyway, and it’s Christmas”. So I indulged. Mostly on sugar. I did not have bread, but I did have cheese, as well as other off protocol items. And you know what? Today I feel like a truck ran over me.
I feel stiff. I feel heavy. I feel blah. My body just doesn’t feel right.
I’m so glad I had this day. I am now committed, more than ever, to myself, the rest of my journey, and Ideal Protein. I’m determined to meet my goal weight by my one year anniversary on IP (May 30th, 2013) if not before. I’m also not married to my goal weight.
I’m 5’7″ with a medium frame. I may be happy at 180. I may be happy at 170. I may be happy at 160. I may want to go to 155. I won’t know until I get closer to these numbers. So right now, and in the recent past I’ve chosen 160 as my goal weight. So today I begin again, and I hope you all begin with me, if not today, then on January 2nd.
Today I weighed in at 207.8. We begin again, and go forth!
Today marks day 201 on Ideal Protein. I can’t believe how quickly the days have gone.
May 30th, 2012 – 304.9 pounds
December 17th, 2012 – 204.26 pounds
200 days, 100 pounds. Not bad. Not bad at all. I am ashamed to admit I had a moment of self-pity today, though, when I realized I probably was not going to make my (arbitrary) goal of 199.9 by Christmas. While nothing is impossible, it has been a long time since I lost over 4 pounds in one week…..so it’s looking more like a New Year’s goal now. In light of what happened on Friday with all of the children and teachers killed, it just seems so selfish to feel badly about my numbers for one second! My sparkpeople Ideal Protein community reminded me of the following:
“199.9 is just an arbitrary number. The magic already happened ! You are 100 pounds lighter, this Xmas than in previous years. That transformation is astonishing ! That’s an accomplishment to celebrate.
You lost 37% of your starting weight. Doctors often beg their patients to lose 5-10% and promise significant health benefits at that rate. Imagine how much quality of life you have already snatched back!”
I’m grateful for that online community. They’ve gotten me through more than once, and I’m sure I’ve done the same for others. So today I’m just going to be grateful. For that online community, for Dr. Tranh, for my coach Suzanne, for my health, for my weight loss, and for my family & friends.
On 12/10 (Monday) I weighed in at 204.8, which made for 100.1 pounds lost since May 30th. This morning, 12/12, I weighed in at 204.4. This means I have 4.5 pounds to lose in 13 days……which barring something crazy beyond my control, I will hit 199.9 for Christmas.
I’m trying to spend the last days of my “2’s” reflecting….because I will never have a “2” as my starting number for weight again. Ever. Ever.